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What I Stopped Explaining to People—and Why It Set Me Free
For years, my default setting was justification. If I made a choice that deviated from the expected script, I immediately drafted a mental press release to explain why. Then came the turning point: I realized the urge to explain is often just a disguised plea for permission. From career pivots to personal boundaries, here is what I completely stopped explaining to people—and how dropping the defense mechanism finally set me free.

Pallavi Vyas
May 265 min read
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